“all i’m asking in return, honey / is to give me my propers when you get home”
Mar. 9th, 2026 08:13 amFor Poetry Monday:
She Says, Being Forbidden:, Leonora Speyer
And was there not a king somewhere who said:
“Back, waves! I do command you!” I forget
His name, beloved, or his race, and yet
I know the story and am comforted.
The tides will rise, are rising—see, they spread
About your robes, your ermine will be wet,
Your velvet shoes, your dear dear feet! Ah let
Me warn you, sir, the waves will reach your head!
My king, my kingly love, how shall we stay
The bold broad lifting of this lovely sea?
What is the master word that we must say
To bring these roaring waters to the knee?
The other king went scampering away!
Will you so do? Or will you drown with me?
Hat-tip to
conuly. Ah, Cnut, we hardly recall ye. This is from Speyer’s 1926 collection Fiddler’s Farewell, which won the Pulitzer Prize for Poetry.
---L.
Subject quote from Respect, Aretha Franklin.
She Says, Being Forbidden:, Leonora Speyer
And was there not a king somewhere who said:
“Back, waves! I do command you!” I forget
His name, beloved, or his race, and yet
I know the story and am comforted.
The tides will rise, are rising—see, they spread
About your robes, your ermine will be wet,
Your velvet shoes, your dear dear feet! Ah let
Me warn you, sir, the waves will reach your head!
My king, my kingly love, how shall we stay
The bold broad lifting of this lovely sea?
What is the master word that we must say
To bring these roaring waters to the knee?
The other king went scampering away!
Will you so do? Or will you drown with me?
Hat-tip to
---L.
Subject quote from Respect, Aretha Franklin.
Book Review: Hornblower and the Hotspur
Mar. 9th, 2026 10:33 amWe begin Hornblower and the Hotspur with Horatio Hornblower standing at the altar with his blushing bride Maria, desperately informing himself that they’re not married just yet! There’s still time to run for it! Only he can’t bring himself to commit the cruel act of leaving her at the altar, so instead he stands there like a lump and gets married.
This is one of the most inexplicable marriages I’ve ever encountered in fiction. It appears that Maria confessed her love for Hornblower and Hornblower was unable to think of any response except “Will you marry me?”, despite the fact that he doesn’t love her, in fact doesn’t think he should ever marry, and lives in dread of passing his temperament on to his children. (I should note that he is in no way honor bound to her before the wedding: she’s not pregnant with his child and he didn't seduce her. He didn't even flirt with her! He just existed in her general vicinity and she fell for him.)
He then spends the rest of the book asking himself “What would a good husband do?” and then enacting the part of a good husband, in much the way that he sometimes enacts the part of a good captain.
littlerhymes and I discussed many possible explanations for Hornblower’s behavior, none of which were entirely satisfactory, but to be fair, what WOULD be a satisfactory explanation?
1. Hornblower is a deeply closeted gay man who is marrying Maria for reasons of social pressure. However, there seem to be plenty of bachelors in the Navy, so it’s unclear how much social pressure he would actually be experiencing, especially since he seems to have no family clamoring for grandchildren/an heir.
(Whether or not he’s gay, there is alas little evidence here that he sees Bush as more than an excellent lieutenant, although Bush is clearly still nuts about Hornblower. The bit where Hornblower fails to mention his own act of heroism in a letter to the Gazette and Bush is like “It isn’t RIGHT, sir.” And also the bit where Bush is tells Hornblower he’s worried about Hornblower’s health and Hornblower is like who cares about this SACK of MEAT that is my BODY.)
2. Hornblower is SO deeply repressed that he can’t cope with the fact that he is experiencing the weakness of having a human emotion (“love”), but actually does love Maria on some level. He keeps feeling surprising upswellings of tenderness for her. Also, he castigates himself severely every time he DOES experience an emotion (or also human weaknesses like “sleepiness” or “hunger”), which I feel has probably damaged his ability to recognize emotions at all.
But even if he loves her, he clearly doesn’t have a lot of respect for her. Might love her purely in the sense of feeling an animal attraction, and also gratitude for the fact that someone cares about him? He muses at one point that it’s strange to be going to sea with someone on land who gives a damn about him.
3. Hornblower doesn’t think that he deserves nice things, so he marries Maria to make sure that he will have a wife who is ill-suited to him, as he deserves.
Oh, also there are some sea battles and stuff. Hornblower is sent with the fleet to capture some Spanish ships carrying a fortune and then has to hare off chasing another ship at the opportune moment so he doesn’t get a share of the massive amount of prize money. But then the Crown takes the money anyway so he actually would have gotten nothing even if he had been there.
I’m pretty sure these Spanish treasure ships formed the basis for a similar incident near the end of Post Captain, only you better believe Jack Aubrey was on hand to win his part of the prize money. I finished Post Captain confident than Jack could pay off his debts and marry Sophie, but now it looks like maybe he won’t be getting the money after all…?
We will find out in HMS Surprise, but not for about a week, as I am setting off on a trip to Massachusetts on Wednesday!
littlerhymes and I will resume our sailing voyages once I return.
This is one of the most inexplicable marriages I’ve ever encountered in fiction. It appears that Maria confessed her love for Hornblower and Hornblower was unable to think of any response except “Will you marry me?”, despite the fact that he doesn’t love her, in fact doesn’t think he should ever marry, and lives in dread of passing his temperament on to his children. (I should note that he is in no way honor bound to her before the wedding: she’s not pregnant with his child and he didn't seduce her. He didn't even flirt with her! He just existed in her general vicinity and she fell for him.)
He then spends the rest of the book asking himself “What would a good husband do?” and then enacting the part of a good husband, in much the way that he sometimes enacts the part of a good captain.
1. Hornblower is a deeply closeted gay man who is marrying Maria for reasons of social pressure. However, there seem to be plenty of bachelors in the Navy, so it’s unclear how much social pressure he would actually be experiencing, especially since he seems to have no family clamoring for grandchildren/an heir.
(Whether or not he’s gay, there is alas little evidence here that he sees Bush as more than an excellent lieutenant, although Bush is clearly still nuts about Hornblower. The bit where Hornblower fails to mention his own act of heroism in a letter to the Gazette and Bush is like “It isn’t RIGHT, sir.” And also the bit where Bush is tells Hornblower he’s worried about Hornblower’s health and Hornblower is like who cares about this SACK of MEAT that is my BODY.)
2. Hornblower is SO deeply repressed that he can’t cope with the fact that he is experiencing the weakness of having a human emotion (“love”), but actually does love Maria on some level. He keeps feeling surprising upswellings of tenderness for her. Also, he castigates himself severely every time he DOES experience an emotion (or also human weaknesses like “sleepiness” or “hunger”), which I feel has probably damaged his ability to recognize emotions at all.
But even if he loves her, he clearly doesn’t have a lot of respect for her. Might love her purely in the sense of feeling an animal attraction, and also gratitude for the fact that someone cares about him? He muses at one point that it’s strange to be going to sea with someone on land who gives a damn about him.
3. Hornblower doesn’t think that he deserves nice things, so he marries Maria to make sure that he will have a wife who is ill-suited to him, as he deserves.
Oh, also there are some sea battles and stuff. Hornblower is sent with the fleet to capture some Spanish ships carrying a fortune and then has to hare off chasing another ship at the opportune moment so he doesn’t get a share of the massive amount of prize money. But then the Crown takes the money anyway so he actually would have gotten nothing even if he had been there.
I’m pretty sure these Spanish treasure ships formed the basis for a similar incident near the end of Post Captain, only you better believe Jack Aubrey was on hand to win his part of the prize money. I finished Post Captain confident than Jack could pay off his debts and marry Sophie, but now it looks like maybe he won’t be getting the money after all…?
We will find out in HMS Surprise, but not for about a week, as I am setting off on a trip to Massachusetts on Wednesday!
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Mar. 8th, 2026 08:51 pmMan, Idk what was wrong with me this weekend. I almost said "today" right there because at least I went to the farmer's market yesterday but I really have been almost useless for most of the weekend. Just wasting hour after hour telling myself that I'm going to Do Things any moment now.
Alien Romance, the Daily comic
Mar. 8th, 2026 11:08 am
"Happy birthday, Ella! Are you throwing a party this year?" Christine asks Ella.
The birthday/Halloween party was a big deal in the graphic novel. Maurice, being crowd-averse, sneaked off and then went to the health clinic to get his arm cast removed, and on his way back, he saw Cathy walking home and proposed to her on the sidewalk. If you enjoy awkward marriage proposals, that was definitely one.
"Of course!" Ella replies. "We're borrowing a lightshow set from the neighbors. It's going to be fantastic! How's med school?"
Med school is difficult, but Christine loves it. She describes how she got caught in the middle of a gender war, and is siding with her fellow female med students even though one prof sometimes mistakes her for a dude.
"I wish I was there to help you harangue those jerks," Ella laments.
"Yeah! We need you," Christine agrees.
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I found a device that allows me to crosspost my comics here from the Patreon, but it's not perfect - it's extremely slow, the keys stick and are prone to typos, and the touchpad works only sporadically so it's difficult to correct those typos. Anyway, here's today's comic too:
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Garden starters
Mar. 8th, 2026 09:18 amI started some lettuce seeds in a tray, and stuck it on the living room windowsill because there's still snow on the ground. While I was at it, I stuck some overgrown potato eyes in the other tray - I waited too long, however, and they're looking pretty ratty, so that might be a fail. No matter. Unfortunately, I only have the two trays until I'm able to get into the shed to grab more, so that was it for today. I may only have to wait a couple of days - we're expecting temperatures as high as 22°C this week.
(I know both F and C scales, but C is easier so I still use it by default even though I moved back into the US. But I'm not very good at converting between them. Anyway, there are conversion apps built right into our browsers; it's not easier for me to do it than for you to do it.)
I really want some spicebush to replace the forsythia with, but that's a whole project unto itself, and I already have more gardening plans than my body or my bank account can handle. First the buckthorn, because it's mixed with invasive bittersweet so that's a two-for-one. And that's where the spotted lanternflies are hanging out, so I can hopefully start eliminating them without insecticides.
I need to make a whole to-do list, and DW is a much better place to do that than FB. The only problem is photos. I'd like to transfer my gardening photo album to my to-do list, but that's just too much effort...
(I know both F and C scales, but C is easier so I still use it by default even though I moved back into the US. But I'm not very good at converting between them. Anyway, there are conversion apps built right into our browsers; it's not easier for me to do it than for you to do it.)
I really want some spicebush to replace the forsythia with, but that's a whole project unto itself, and I already have more gardening plans than my body or my bank account can handle. First the buckthorn, because it's mixed with invasive bittersweet so that's a two-for-one. And that's where the spotted lanternflies are hanging out, so I can hopefully start eliminating them without insecticides.
I need to make a whole to-do list, and DW is a much better place to do that than FB. The only problem is photos. I'd like to transfer my gardening photo album to my to-do list, but that's just too much effort...
Alien Romance, the Daily Comic
Mar. 7th, 2026 08:13 amChristine and Ella chat long-distance.
My laptop might have gasped its last breath last night. I might be able to coax enough life out of it to transfer my art folders to an XHD, so I'm going to wait until I have that set up before I try turning it on again. I can't copy images from Patreon so I just linked it this time and I'll have to put it up on some host site that does allow my phone to grab the image.
We haven't seen much of Christine here on DW. She's tall and elegant with very short hair and large hoop earrings and tends to wear men's clothes. She borrowed Jon's old suit to wear to Cathy and Maurice's wedding and apparently she'll never wear a dress again!
More commentary on the Patreon page. I have a lot to do today, and because it's a Saturday and most of the family is home, any downtime I get will be eaten up by them needing me for things.
My laptop might have gasped its last breath last night. I might be able to coax enough life out of it to transfer my art folders to an XHD, so I'm going to wait until I have that set up before I try turning it on again. I can't copy images from Patreon so I just linked it this time and I'll have to put it up on some host site that does allow my phone to grab the image.
We haven't seen much of Christine here on DW. She's tall and elegant with very short hair and large hoop earrings and tends to wear men's clothes. She borrowed Jon's old suit to wear to Cathy and Maurice's wedding and apparently she'll never wear a dress again!
More commentary on the Patreon page. I have a lot to do today, and because it's a Saturday and most of the family is home, any downtime I get will be eaten up by them needing me for things.
Шеринг-Processing
Mar. 7th, 2026 11:52 amЗдравствуйте, дорогие сообщники. На этой неделе было 3 поста, среди которых ни одно запросного. При этом новых комментариев появилось около 800, что говорит о том, что и новые темы зацепили сообщников, и дискуссии прошлой недели всё ещё не сошли на нет. И, что удивительно, среда была только одна и в среду :)
Я не буду сегодня много писать о темах недели, т.к. одна и так была моя, а во второй так много комментариев, что кажется, она и так была обсуждена достаточно. Для разнообразия предлагаю сосредоточиться на именно на процессинге и шеринге в их изначальном смысле, поговорить о своих чувствах, о внутренних и внешних событиях, как связанных с сообществом , так и нет.
В качестве затравки я предлагаю порефлексировать и порассуждать о природе "сверхглубоких" веток. Я думаю, что все понимают, что речь идёт о диалогах, между двумя, редко больше, участниками, состоящими из уходящих вширь и вглубь десятками, а иногда и сотнями, комментариями. Интересно узнать ваше отношение к этому явлению, желательно содержащее какой-то анализ, а не только рассказ об эмоциях. Что вы чувствуете и думаете, когда видите такие ветки со стороны и когда сами являетесь одной из сторон. Есть ли в этом польза, для дискутирующих и для сообщества. Нужно ли как-то вмешиваться в них. Тема эмоционально заряженная, поэтому я прошу тех, кто высказывается, быть внимательными к тону и содержанию и не забывать о главном правиле сообщества об уважении и доброжелательности.
Всем хорошей и, по возможности, спокойной недели
Я не буду сегодня много писать о темах недели, т.к. одна и так была моя, а во второй так много комментариев, что кажется, она и так была обсуждена достаточно. Для разнообразия предлагаю сосредоточиться на именно на процессинге и шеринге в их изначальном смысле, поговорить о своих чувствах, о внутренних и внешних событиях, как связанных с сообществом , так и нет.
В качестве затравки я предлагаю порефлексировать и порассуждать о природе "сверхглубоких" веток. Я думаю, что все понимают, что речь идёт о диалогах, между двумя, редко больше, участниками, состоящими из уходящих вширь и вглубь десятками, а иногда и сотнями, комментариями. Интересно узнать ваше отношение к этому явлению, желательно содержащее какой-то анализ, а не только рассказ об эмоциях. Что вы чувствуете и думаете, когда видите такие ветки со стороны и когда сами являетесь одной из сторон. Есть ли в этом польза, для дискутирующих и для сообщества. Нужно ли как-то вмешиваться в них. Тема эмоционально заряженная, поэтому я прошу тех, кто высказывается, быть внимательными к тону и содержанию и не забывать о главном правиле сообщества об уважении и доброжелательности.
Всем хорошей и, по возможности, спокойной недели
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Mar. 6th, 2026 08:58 pmVacation time~
I don't have any particular plans before I leave for the con but I do have things I'm hoping to get done before I go. I'll have roughly four and half days, since I'll be leaving Wednesday evening. Then I'll be getting back the following Wednesday night, so that's another four days to spend at my leisure before going back to work. Yay!
Can't say I'm especially looking forward to the bus trip but I'm trying to not dread it either. Might be bad, might be good. Might be neither! Whatever else it is, it's a new experience.
Tell you what's really annoying me, though, is that I forgot my book at work. I was not especially enjoying the book, tbh, but I was still intending to finish it this weekend. I'll probably see if my sister is willing to take me by to grab it on Monday, as I'd rather not wait the full two weeks' worth of my PTO.
I don't have any particular plans before I leave for the con but I do have things I'm hoping to get done before I go. I'll have roughly four and half days, since I'll be leaving Wednesday evening. Then I'll be getting back the following Wednesday night, so that's another four days to spend at my leisure before going back to work. Yay!
Can't say I'm especially looking forward to the bus trip but I'm trying to not dread it either. Might be bad, might be good. Might be neither! Whatever else it is, it's a new experience.
Tell you what's really annoying me, though, is that I forgot my book at work. I was not especially enjoying the book, tbh, but I was still intending to finish it this weekend. I'll probably see if my sister is willing to take me by to grab it on Monday, as I'd rather not wait the full two weeks' worth of my PTO.
Alien Romance, the daily comic strip
Mar. 6th, 2026 12:15 pm
"Is there a way we can attach our Clapper to some fun lights for my party?" Ella asks Cathy and Maurice. The newlywed couple is apparently still cooking meals for the group at Ella's house. And why not? Ella has a better kitchen and she actually shops for groceries, and doesn't have to carry them up 3 flights of stairs. And she doesn't cook. Maurice started while he was employed as Jon's home health aide and was trying to pass the time while stuck in the Sievers' house all day. It's an easy way for me to draw the characters hanging out together.
Maurice replies, "Ask my downstairs neighbor if you can borrow his rave lights. Cathy's good friends with him."
Cathy brings Ella to Owen and Sammy's apartment. Owen answers the door and Ella introduces herself. "So, I'm throwing a party the day before Halloween, and Cathy says you own some lights?" she asks Owen.
"They're bolted to the wall," says Owen, frowning and glancing over his shoulder. "I don't think we can get them off." Suddenly he brightens. "You could have your party here!"
"My brother's disabled," says Ella. "He'll have trouble with all these stairs."
"Oh! Is he that athlete guy? I've seen him around!" says Owen.
The girls enter the apartment, where Ella looks around, remarking, "Yup, he's around and around, but not up and down."
Sammy is on the other side of the room, reaching toward a large boxy device perched high up in the corner. "Hey Owen, I think I can get it! We just need power tools."
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Yeah, I took another break from the daily comic. I've definitely been busy, and am still lagging behind on some very high priority tasks. Caregiving, my graphic novel, supporting my friends in crisis, tax prep... I really don't want to fund genocide, violence, corruption, and all the numerous other terrible things my tax money is going to. I'm trying to do small things to help my community, but it can be hard to coordinate, and to scrape up the energy to take on more tasks. I've started going to the gym, progressing very slowly to avoid wrecking myself, and it puts my energy levels for important daily tasks back a bit. The sad thing is that I can't build up stamina due to my health conditions, so I'm not sure what I'm doing this for. Honestly, my main motivation is that it's just a quiet place to read my book. The book I'm reading is funny and interesting, and it's helping my ability to follow conversational French quite a lot. But I never pick it up at home. I have eleventy-twelve other things I need to do at home.
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Mar. 5th, 2026 08:59 pmI have like three things to do because I procrastinated, shouldn't take more than about thirty minutes total. Then? I'm going to bed!! I killed my "slowly getting sleep schedule in order" streak but I'm getting back on track tonight, babies B)
гп
Mar. 5th, 2026 11:05 am один за другим -- дни памяти Глеба Павловского. сегодня было бы 75 лет, 26 февраля умер... накануне своего 50-летия (2001) захотел изменить свою жизнь.
вдруг попался репортаж RTVI о похоронах 3 марта 2023 г. -- на удивление хороший.
https://rtvi.com/stories/epoha-otomstila-emu-oprokinula-ego-i-zastavila-perezhit-sokrushitelnoe-porazhenie-v-moskve-prostilis-s-glebom-pavlovskim/
вдруг попался репортаж RTVI о похоронах 3 марта 2023 г. -- на удивление хороший.
https://rtvi.com/stories/epoha-otomstila-emu-oprokinula-ego-i-zastavila-perezhit-sokrushitelnoe-porazhenie-v-moskve-prostilis-s-glebom-pavlovskim/
Links: Small steps to resist
Mar. 4th, 2026 09:45 pmBirbs and Borbs Birds with queer flags. I'm eyeing the bisexual oystercatcher sticker. Pride is resistance!
Resist and Unsubscribe. Unsubscribe from services that support fascism. Every little bit helps! I didn't subscribe to any of these things in the first place, so I guess I've been resisting all along.
Taking action against AI harms by Anil Dash. Speaking can help get businesses off X and schools off ChatGPT.
Resist and Unsubscribe. Unsubscribe from services that support fascism. Every little bit helps! I didn't subscribe to any of these things in the first place, so I guess I've been resisting all along.
Taking action against AI harms by Anil Dash. Speaking can help get businesses off X and schools off ChatGPT.
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Mar. 4th, 2026 08:59 pmWip Wednesday! Probably because I was so late last week, I didn't get any prompts. So, I figured I'd just toss up something I'm working on, to keep things rolling. I flipped through a few options and decided on the escape-fic, which I'm again posting all I've written of so far. I'm close to an ending, I can feel it...
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